When the Incidents of Bullying Already Happened, then the Schools Tried to Teach the Students the Right Ways to Interact with Each Other, it Would be Too Late

When is discipline discipline, and when will it be, abuse, and, how do we train our young to abide by the rules, in this day and age of, ZERO physical punishment?  That is, the hardest thing that parents are learning right now…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

Awhile ago, a technical high school in Hualien had a bullying case that made the news, a bully started smacking and slapping another student around, there was no other adults around, only the bystander students with their cell phone, taping, watching, with no one dare stopping the bully.

There’d been an influx of school bullying, it’d shown that the adolescents are straying, that their bad behaviors are becoming, more and more, socialized, this is “moblike”.  And although, there were those who are against this sort of a label for teens, but, the gangs had infiltrated into the schools, the adolescents are getting more and more violent, this is, a fact currently.

back when this was still the way…from online

The instructors, due to the zero physical punishment policy, they’d become, timid in setting the misbehaving students right, which added to the increasing cases of bullying in school; by the same; due to the restrictions of the children and adolescent welfare laws, they’d not dared implore the physical punishments, which exacerbated to the children’s bad behaviors more.

A first year high school male, in a month’s of starting school, he’d been truant for more than one hundred periods, the father received the notice from school, and asked the son, the son talked back, the father started, beating on the son.  The son felt upset over being beaten, sued the father for domestic violence, the courts gave the father three months, because of the heavier sentence for abuse of adolescents and children, there’s no way the adult can pay the fines and skip out of time served.  And here’s the problem, would the son, due to his father’s given a prison sentence, never skip school again?  Or, will he feel guilty, that he’d, caused his own father to get sent to prison?  The parent worried that his young might get absorbed by the gangs, or started following the scamming means, become delivery pickup, and, he’d lifted a hand to hit his own son, and received a guilty verdict for assault charge, then, who will take over to discipline the children on behalf of the parents?  The judge?  Police?  Who will be there, to CORRECT the misbehaviors of the children, to teach them, that they need to be responsible for their own, behaviors.

Certainly, the focal point of education should be based off of love, but, for the children who don’t behave in the right ways, if we can’t enforce the needed punishments, we can’t, stop them from continue to misbehave.  It’s just, that the parents are, bound by the law, what are they, to do?

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There’s the trends of the scam artists, the violent criminals getting younger and younger each and every year, which showed, that if we don’t straighten the children out when they began misbehaving, and punishing them after they did something bad, it would be, too, late.

And so, this is, the result of the ZERO physical punishment law to teach the students right from wrong, and, there’s sometimes the need for the slap on the wrists, to TEACH the younger children right from wrong, besides, they are still young, and, they will, associate the pains from being smacked with their bad behaviors, and then, to avoid the pains of getting smacked, they are going to, NOT do that bad behavior, that’s the most basic of behaviorism, and yet, the government banned the parents from physically disciplining their young, because we are more advanced, we care for children’s rights in this country…

The Child, Physically Abused by His Father, the Hsinbei City Government Helped File for a Restraining Order for the Child

More cases of how these, fathers, confused ABUSE with, DISCIPLINE, still holding on, to the values of: sparing the rod you spoil the child, because I’m guessing, that that, was how they were, raised, when there IS, a better way, to TRAIN your own children, to BEHAVE themselves!  Off of the Newspapers, translated…

The young girl going to school in Hsinbei City, because of how she’d not made a high enough grade on her exams based off of her father’s expectations, he’d punished her to kneel, then whipped her with a rattan, she was bruised all over her body.  The city originally planned to get this father into a parenting course yesterday, but the society believed, that the city wasn’t doing enough to protect the welfare of the child, the domestic violence prevention center decided to help the child file for a protective order against her own father, to prohibit him from physically abusing her again.

On the evening of June 29^th, the girl was physically punished  by her father for not making a high enough grade, the father posted the punishment session online; the following day, the school started the care and counseling means, and confirmed the severity of the child’s injuries, and what had happened, and notified social services.

The manager of the Domestic Violence Prevention Center of Hsinbei City, Hsu stated, that this father’s heart was in the right place, wanting his young to perform better in school, but the means was wrong, he’d used a way that damages the child’s dignity, that it may cause the child to never recover.  Yesterday, the school, the social services, and the domestic violence prevention social workers already visited the home, and warned the father, to NEVER, improperly “discipline” his own daughter, again, and, demanded that the other family members, share the responsibilities for teaching the child, to help protect her safety.

This father and his wife had three children, they are young, but with the traditional beliefs about education, stressed, “you spare the rod, you spoil the child, and rewards should only be given when they behaved well”.  Yesterday, the father got found, for five years aga, shaving his own daughter’s head to bald, which was also, left on FB as evidence, but, it hadn’t gotten, reported.  He’d explained, that his daughter didn’t have enough hair, and her hair was too short, and the students in her class made fun of her, and after he’d discussed the matter with her, and she’d agreed, believed, that rather than getting laughed at often in school, she should shave her head, for her hair to grow back completely again, and finally, her hair volume is, increased somewhat right now.

There ARE, better way, to teach a kid, after all, your kid may be slow to learn, but that doesn’t mean that s/he is, STUPID, or can’t learn, that just means, that you, as her/his parents, need to, spend more time, to work with your young, on the skills you want her/him to master, or what s/he should be able to do, from school, and the grades should still NOT be used as a SORRY EXCUSE for you, to BEAT the SHIT out of your own child!

Physically “Disciplining” His Own Son, the Pediatrician Got His License to Practice Medicine, Suspended

In Taoyuan, there is a pediatrician who’d posted on FB, that he couldn’t teach his own three children well enough, as a single parent, that he’d, used the physical disciplinary measures, and pushed them to the floors, but his ex called him out on what he’d stated, that he’d not only, “swiped” to make his children fall, that he’d, kicked them, HARD, and on top of that, he’d also, SLAPPED them more than fifty times across their faces.  The domestic violence prevention center in Taoyuan and the sexual assault prevention center in Taoyuan yesterday told the press, that they’d, stepped in, to place the children out of the father’s care, now, all three children are left in the care of their birthmother, and their grandparents.

And the pediatrician is a staff of a famed chain OBGYN clinic, the manager of the clinic posted on FB, “domestic violence is WRONG, and we need to go down HARD on those who abused their families”, that the clinic had, halted all of the physician’s clinical practices, as well as all other duties from work, that they will wait for the investigations to finish, as the truth comes out.

And so, this, is how easily, you can, mistake discipline with, abuse, and, these new age parents, still had the minds of the stone ages (was it during that time???  I can’t, really, tell), with the beliefs of spoiling the rod, you spoil the child, when there IS, a better way, to teach your own young, without ANY abuse, so long as you set the rules up correctly with them when they were, younger, then, all should flow, smoothly, and I’m guessing, that this man didn’t have a clue, of how to treat his own young correctly, because he was, “trained”, using the, “rod methods” growing up too, and these abusive parents deserved the HARSHEST punishment EVER, and, they hopefully, will NEVER be in custody of their own children again!

Protecting the Relationships of Parents & Children, the Parents Used the Methods of Verbal Abuse & Physical Disciplines, with Their Minds Already Spent, Trying to Make the Ends, Meet Offering the Resources to Educate, to Help the Parents Who are Having a, Difficult, Time

Knowing that we aren’t supposed to use the rod to discipline, but sometimes, if we don’t make our children feel the pain, what they’re supposed to learn, simply, can’t, “register”, and thus, knowing how to correctly, teach our own young, became, something that’s, not at all easy to, manage for all of us!  On discipline and abuse, off of the Front Page Sections, the beliefs of, experts, translated…

The Justice Department amended the civil laws, as the parents physically punished their young overtly, in the futures, the adults would be charged with abusing parental rights.  The scholars and experts reminded, that the focal point of this would be the definitions of what constitutes as, overtly punishing.  And, the amendment also will, label these parents who break these laws as “unfitting” parents, but without enough resources put in to train them, forcibly removed the parental rights, without the backup to help the parents to learn better, this may not just be punishing to the parents, it might also, damage the children, too.

Lin, the master lecturer of Youth and Child Welfare Department, parenting writer stated, that the concretes of overly abuse must be defined clearly, otherwise, with the blurred boundaries, it would be, quite difficult to, define.  And, if the parental rights are, forcibly, stripped away, where would the children be sent?  To the government?  Social welfare organizations?  Or, given to the grandparents, the relatives?  If they were given to the grandparents, the relatives, are the grandparents, and the relatives, ready to take on the responsibilities?

If the children were forced out of their own home, Lin stated, for them, the abusers stayed where they are, while they were being, forcibly, removed from what’s familiar, and they needed to face the uncertainties of the future, it would be, an added-on punishment to the children, and there were the cases where the children would rather endure the physical abuse, and continued to live with the parents.

The clinical psychologist, Shih also mentioned, that stripping the parents of their parental rights is telling them, “you’re UNFIT to be parent”, but, would the stripping of parental rights, use a tough method to force the children to seer the ties with their, parents?  Who will the children attach themselves to in the future?  Are there people who can replace the parents, and establish a bond of intimacy with the children?  And, what sort of a long-term effect will this have on the children?  All of these, are things the government needed to consider, thoroughly, and carefully.

Shih stated, that the parents are all living in a high-pressure environment day to day, for a lot, keeping the families’ bills paid, foods on the table is hard enough, and they knew that punishment is bad for children, but they are, helpless to find better ways; and some parents were raised by physical discipline measures too, without a better role model from the last generation to learn from, and, even as these adults read a ton of parenting books, it would still be quite difficult, to put what they’d now learned, into, practice.

Shih advised, that at the same time, the government should think to see if there are, enough resources in education, to offer to these parents who don’t know what to do, after all, for most parents, hurting their own young, is never, in their, intentions.

The expert of parenting, Chen stated, that the law is that last line of, defense, and it only cures the symptoms, and not fix the problems, the most is to heighten the parents’ awareness of educating their own young, surely, the physical disciplines can, achieve the short-term desired results, but for the long run, it may cause the parent-children relations to, break apart, and, if the child was severely injured in the psychological, or physical senses, then, there would be the necessity of intervention from the society too.

As the amendments are being, drafted up, if there are the provisions to educate the parents, this is, equally, important.  Lin stated, there are the multiple hardships to the parents in educating their young, when they are faced with the obstacles, they normally received the blames, more than the actual assistance that were, needed.  But currently, there’s, not much resources being, given.

And so, this is, the shortcomings, of the systems, we can’t beat the crap out of our young when they’d misbehaved, because that now constitutes as, ABUSE, and we the adults would get, arrested if we discipline our own young physically, but sometimes, screaming and yelling becomes, sounds of, deaf ears, and the screams just don’t register into the children’s ears or minds, and that’s verbal abuse too, and so, how to be good parents, these laws, made it harder, especially when we were groomed by the culture of, sparing the rods, you will, spoil your own, children, and that’s way too, deeply, etched in, that was how we’d all been, raised, before child welfare became, a hot issue like it has right now in this modern day, world.